It's not that I am afraid to die. I just don't want to be there when it happens.
Woody Allen
Nobody, at least nobody in his normal mind, wants to die. Humans are wired to live
and enjoy the gift of life. And since we love life so much, we are
afraid of its opposite – death. The fear of death is normal, but to the extreme, it becomes an unhealthy condition.
If it is an irrational fear, it is called
Thanatophobia, or fear of death.
These are people
who live every day avoiding any incident that might
cause death. They don’t want to see pictures of dead
people. They refuse to watch anything on TV that
talks about death. These can be treated as a mental
problem and can be healed with the appropriate
intervention based on clear diagnosis.
But there are people who are
afraid of dying based on a solid reason:
it could be
that they have a terminal condition such as cancer;
or their age makes death real. What are some of the
issues attached to the fear of death:
a. Religious and Spiritual Concerns
Death is a theme among the major world’s religions. The promise of life after
death depends so much on the life lived here on earth. For these people, they are afraid of death
because they believe they have not done enough that will make them worth of the afterlife.
What therapists can do is to help clarify real from imaginary concerns. They can work with their
religious leaders and spiritual directors to thresh
out these issues.
b. Physical Issues
Some people fear death because of their concerns about the pain that it brings. It is not so much the death that they are afraid of, but the moments of intense pain that the days prior to death might bring.
These are real fears and it is best that counselors and
therapists work with the rest of the pain management
team to ease out the fears and concerns of patients.
However, for people who are not even sick physically
but are still paralyzed by the fear of death due to
physical reasons are already considered
Thanatophobic. A good hypnosis session can help
clarify the roots of this phobia.
c. Fear of the Unknown and Loss of Control
Death is the ultimate form of surrender and
letting go. And other people, especially those who
are addicted to control (control freaks, to use a
street language) are afraid of losing their power to
control their life and their destiny. A session with
a therapist can identify the root cause of this
fear.
It is better for people to find a balance
between control and letting go.